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This book is a quick read @ 189 pages. I think all books should be 250-275 @ most because if you cannot get your message across by then I will begin to skim sections.

Reshma shares how she fell into this ridiculous “have it all motherhood scheme” & how a lot of us have fallen trap to it. She is the CEO of Girls who code, which I am a huge fan of as I have focused a lot of my career on girls & STEM.

She shares her meltdown moment & how the "have it all" mentality is one big lie. I completely agree with her. I will never forget the moment another mom at a playgroup said "Oh are you teaching her sign language at 8 months?" I politely said no & walked away thinking…are you f&&***& kidding me? Now on top of all the organic baby food I need to make, as well as sleep training and get back into my pre-pregnancy clothes I need to teach my kid to sign.

Heck no…

In Chapter 5, she discusses the 4 forces of making real change: empower, educate, revise and advocate.

One of my favourite sections w/in Chapter 7 was the discussion on the motherhood penalty. The motherhood penalty is a term coined by sociologists who argue that in the workplace, working mothers encounter biological & cultural based disadvantages in pay, perceived competence, & benefits relative to childless women. I recall hearing stories of moms who would leave their coat on the back of their chair even though they had left to go pick up their child. Or what about not even being asked about an opportunity because you would have to travel & you have young kids.

Who else has had to deal with this?

Reshma also shares her Marshall plan for moms Homepage - Marshall Plan for Moms, which calls on US companies and policy makers to create policies on paid family leave, affordable childcare & rooting out the motherhood penalty

What I wished this book had was more of a global perspective. It is mainly based on US content & I realize how living in Canada I would really like to read more Canadian content & perspectives

Curious to hear what are your thoughts on the book?

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WHY THIS BOOK? Susan’s stories and humour come through the book and it almost feels like she is sharing stories around the dinner table with obviously coffee and cookies.⁠

The chapter on showing up discusses self-compassion and the importance of it. This chapter reminds me of Brene Brown’s famous quote “If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I am not interested in your feedback.” This chapter reminded me that I need to keep showing flaws and all to be there for people even if I don't have the answer. I remember the early conversations at TransLink when we were getting started and everyone had different opinions on where to begin on the EDI journey. I thought oh my gosh I don't have the answer immediately and I am the leader. Geez what an imposter. Again, having a wonderful network of people that I could chat with allowed me to find self-compassion and give me some grace and I took the time to understand the organization.⁠

The “Walking Your Why” chapter resonated with me as I am going through the Minerva Women (CHECK THEM OUT @MINERVABC) leading the way program and we went through an exercise of finding your values. I highly recommend you taking time to figure out your values: Living Into Our Values - Brené Brown (⁠

For me my values are equity, fun and connection and if I am living my values every day it is easier to make decisions.⁠

And the last bit of wisdom from Susan which is my favourite was the stories around “Grit versus Quit” page 182 to 187. You have to read it yourself.⁠

WHY THIS BOOK? I really do love these types of books. Dorie Clark's formula of story, personal insight, recap and questions are brilliant. These types of books are my favourite because it gets me to think differently and hear stories from others. I will be talking about this book for a long time. ⁠

The title says it all and she breaks the book into three sections: White Space, Focus where it counts and Keeping the Faith. ⁠

Here are my thoughts:⁠

In the chapter "Saying No (Even to Good Things)" I was reminded how as humans there are a whole number of reasons we want to say yes to different things because we want to feel needed, FOMO or just our ego that feels good to be asked. Dorie shares how Derek Sivers (founder of CD baby) says it's either a hell yeah or it’s a no. ⁠

There are so many reasons why people say yes to different opportunities. For me, if I am speaking on a panel I want to know who is on the panel (no more all white folx), what the organization does and do I have the time. ⁠

I really liked how Dorie outlined these 4 steps and how you can go back and forth in-between during your career (hence the wave analogy…very clever). She does talk about being careful to not stagnate at any stage which of course made me think about my own career and how I want to drive meaningful impact.⁠

Now I am not an entrepreneur however I think about this as how I can enable and empower the people that I work with. The seven-year horizon is focused on long-term thinking and looking at the goals over a 7 year period. ⁠

I have been in my role at TransLink for a year and a half and feel we have just started on our equity, diversity and inclusion journey and I am always thinking about what an inclusive organization looks like in 5 or 10 years. Having some idea on a long term vision helps me work backwards on what needs to be done. Again the book is another must and I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.⁠

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